Am I looking for what's right or am I looking for what's wrong?

Deciding to look for what's right is a bit like finding Neverland. Some may scoff, and insist that you can't make something so just by believing it. However, I have come to know the magical power of looking for what's right. When we choose to look for what's right in our world, "...we gain immediate access to the level of conciousness where love and gratitude reside" (Ford, 2003, p. 96). "Looking for what's right opens our hearts and allows us to live in a state of gratitude for what we have" (Ford, 2003, p. 96).

That's where the magic is, in our hearts. When we engage the world from a place within our hearts, suddenly we are overtaken by a feeling of joyful expectancy. We approach each moment with a heightened sense of anticipation, like a child, believing and knowing that something wonderful is about to happen.

Looking for what's right transports us into the magical perfection of the simplest of moments. Sitting on your couch in flannel pajamas, wearing wool socks, covered by a warm blanket, with two toy poodles snuggled up against you, becomes a timeless place when, all at once, you become aware of just how right all really is in the world. You look deep into the eyes of a furry little friend, and you are able to recognize the love and adoration that he is sending you. Holding his gaze, reaching ever deeper into his eyes, he too recognizes the love that you are sending him. Slowly and gently, he lifts a paw and reaches out to touch your cheek, as if to say, "Yes, this moment is real. Our hearts have become one." Without words, the magic has spoken.

Have you ever lamented that your relationship is no longer fun and has lost the romance? Did you blame your partner? "We must all ask ourselves what would happen if we changed the lens through which we view the world...What would be possible if we approached our partners as though their sole purpose was to bring us ecstasy and joy? What would we hear? What would we see? What would be possible" (Ford, 2003, p. 103)?

We are, each of us, equal participants. If you want fun in your relationship, make it fun. If you want romance, be romantic. It is amazing to discover how what we put out into the world finds its way back to us. By taking responsibility for our lives, for our relationships, and by choosing to believe and see them as being alright, we create the magic, and the people in our lives respond to it. They can't help themselves. The magic we create touches their hearts, opening them up to that same wonderous place of love.

Neverland is within each of us. Each of us can go there anytime we like, just by choosing to look for what's right instead of looking for what's wrong. Choosing to go to Neverland changes a cold and rainy, dark and dreary afternoon into an enchanted day of delicious foods, wonderful drink, warm company and heartfelt laughs. Choosing to go to Neverland is merely a simple choice, a choice made in an instant. The power to choose is yours. Grab onto that power like the tail of a kite. Don't let it go. Let the lightness in your heart carry you to magical places.

Over the course of this week, we will be focused on the right question, Chapter 8, Will This Choice Add to My Life Force or Will it Rob Me of My Energy?


Until next week, remember, ask yourself each day, "How am I going to love and honor myself today" (Ford, 2003, p. 147)?



REFERENCES:

Ford, D. (2003). The right questions: Ten essential questions to guide you to an extraordinary life. New York: Harper Collins Publishers, Inc.